A friend of mine on twitter asked the question about hoarding.
I could probably from life experience write a novel about it. But, I will make this brief. (As I can).
My grandmother has a problem with hoarding and has for a very long time. My grandfather passed away in 1993, and since then it started and got worse and worse. I love my grandmother and in no way am trying to blast her or make her sound like a bad person.
The thing about it is, I think that she did not have the intention for things to get out of hand like they did. Yet, most of my life I lived in that house with her in that condition. I am talking about a path way to walk through the house. No, I did not have house hold chores. What really could I do? I washed dishes and vacuumed what floor I could. I kept my bed clean and enough room to lay down on.
But, ultimately, things just did not get done. It was an embarrassment to have friends over so I never did. Not that I had allot of friends, because we lived month to month on SSI. But we made it and we got through. I am proud of my upbringing.
This blog is not about me though so I will get back to the point at hand. When I would bring dates over, I begged them to not think that the way they saw the house in anyway represented me. I wanted to have a nice house to live in that was not cluttered. Crazy thing is at night I would forget about the fact that I could not see my floor. Then, waking up the next day and seeing the stuff there, irked me to no end. But, I dealt with it.
The thing about hoarding is my grandmother did not want to be one. I know, because before my grandfather died she didn’t have the house like that. I think that the things in her house fill her void. And though to people reading this it may seem disgusting or gross. My grandmother keeps her dishes and clothes clean as well as her body. The only thing that makes her a hoarder is that she has all that stuff in her house.
Now, I love my grandmother and always will. But, at the same time her being a hoarder though she may not know it, has put a wall between her and the family even more than it was.
If you know anyone that is a hoarder. Do not think why in the world would they be so gross. Think that maybe this person has a condition that all that stuff they think is for filling that void or whatever it may be.
Thank you so much for your time in reading my little post.